Why Parents Who Communicate With Other Parents Are Not Dinosaurs

I’m finally going to set the record straight about why and when parents should communicate with other parents about their children’s outings, sleepover’s, shopping trips, or even parties.  

Contrary to some popular opinions, parents who take an active interest in their kidlet’s whereabouts are not a dying breed. Sorry–not sorry–teenagers, asking where you will be and who you will be with is not going to go out of style any time soon.

The lyric, “Just ’cause you heard it,” sung by Adele in Rumour Has It, is a perfect example of how words might be translated and suddenly induced into another meaning by a child. When one of our children, young or old, plan an event or function with another child, sometimes the details seem to become a bit skewed. So, just because my kidlet may have confirmed some awesome evening plans, doesn’t mean I was in agreement.

We know how important it is to keep tabs on our kids. Of course, with small children, it is understood that parents will communicate with other parents to book play dates and outings. For teenagers, the communication aspect tends to get a bit dicey.

Nobody home (I hope)

Undoubtedly, if a parent does in fact get up enough nerve to dial a friends’ parent, then secretly, he or she might be hoping no one answers the phone.

The problem is, some parents are simply afraid to call another parent and find out the facts and details of the planned social event. These parents think their teenager will be angry or embarrassed. Consequently, the guilt kicks in and the parent backs off. This leaves the adults scratching their heads wondering where their child will be and who he or she will be out with. 

I really believe that many parents want to call but fear retribution and then avoid the conflict. Many parents want to know what their kidlet will be up to when they leave the house.I suspect some of these parents are the same ones that want communication from other parents, but are simply terrified of the possible outcome. 

Don’t you trust me? 

Some parents don’t feel the need to follow through and find out where their child will be. Then again, there are some parents who say they trust their child and then get burned in the process. Let’s face it, teenagers are a darn sneaky bunch and parents should not be so naïve to assume that everything out of their kids’ mouth is a fact.

By the time our children get to high school, some parents find it more than uncomfortable to call another teenagers’ parent; maybe even socially unacceptable. Ironically, the parent you need to call, might be the same parent hoping you will call. I know this to be true because I am carrying a few burn marks myself. You see where I am going with this? We are all thinking about the same thing; where will our child be and who will he or she be with?

Unfortunately, as parents, even though we are skeptical or suspicious, we don’t want to appear that way.

We have enough problems trying to keep up with social media and who might be soliciting our teens online. The idea that parents should know who their kids’ friends are, and where their child is going, has not gone out of style. I am not a dinosaur, but I sure can roar. 

Go on…call that crazy friends’ parent…you know you want to.         

 

 

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