5 Reasons Why It Doesn’t Matter If You Check Your Teenager’s Online Social Media
It simply doesn’t matter. Your teenager’s, and unfortunately, your pre-teenager’s will find a way to bypass your parental controls. They will find a way to communicate with their friends and you will simply die trying to stop them.
Experts say, “Monitor your kids online activity.” Well, I for one am tired of other mother’s (you know the type; the mother whose teen got a perfect score on the SAT; a.k.a. the “name dropper” at the PTA meeting) passing judgment on us mom’s who are just trying to stay one step ahead of the game and growing gray hair faster than the weeds on our front lawns.
Yes, we are monitoring the activity, but sites like Badoo, Hot or Not, Kik, and Snapchat do not make it easy for us. Forget Instagam or Twitter; those are child’s play now. Parents of teenagers are so over those sites. We are into the really big time wasters. (Do not get me started on Badoo!)
Here are 5 reasons why your efforts won’t work.
1) Take the kidlets’ phone away, and he or she will have a friend who will provide another phone. Yes, it’s true, friends give phones, IPods or IPads to friends who get their phones taken away by parents. I don’t like it either, but if I didn’t see it with my own eyes I wouldn’t have believed it. And by the way, those other parents do not know their own kidlet just gave away their IPad, IPod or phone. Yes, this could be you folks.
2) Go ahead, take away all tech privileges, it won’t matter. Again, they will sneak laptops, or technology from you. Yes, it’s true, unless you can be awake 24 hours a day, or put a lock on your own computer, your kidlet will find a way to log-on and it won’t take but five seconds to download an app and hide it. They don’t miss an opportunity.
3) Go ahead, delete that Twitter, Instagram, Kik, Snapchat, Hot or Not or any other account you can think of…your kid will just make another one…here we go again, delete the new ones and so on and so forth.
4) Other teenagers will know who you are. Your child’s friends will hide their online activity so other parent’s can’t stalk them; they work together to keep information away from all parents. Be careful with this one; they all stick together and will do whatever they can to block you. So, if you need to call another parent about something important, you may want to just knock on their door instead. Chances are your phone number has been blocked on another parent’s phone as well. Yes, these kids are talented.
5) Teenagers will always, and I repeat, always know more than the parents about social media. They will always be faster, quicker, or smarter, and of course, devious. You can argue with me all you want, they hold this title hands down.
I know there will most likely be some “nay sayers” who will ultimately want to condemn me for promoting the idea that children are able to confuse us. Some tech savvy gurus may even want to teach me how to stay ahead of the game. Can’t and won’t happen…these kids aren’t going down easy–but neither am I.